“Networks are not normal for me.”

“Networks are false.”

“I’m introvert, so I can’t communicate.”

“It is not part of my culture.”

People, networks simply build bilateral relations to help each other achieve personal or professional goals or to find life satisfaction. Just ask Helen Keeler: “Only we can do very little. We can together do a lot.” Or Brin Brown, who said, “The courage begins with appearing and leaving ourselves see.”

Previously, it was revealed Four of the top 10 types of network networks to avoid. In short, they were:

1. Lunch suggestion.
2. Excessive apology.
3. Lack of business cards.
4. Save the right to.

I have more to share it.

5. Driving someone’s time

Have you ever went to an event and wanted to meet a few of the main people? I waited with patience shook hands with one executive official; However, the other present took control of their time.

Don’t be that Networker that works time. Network events are not the right place to hold deep conversations. It is ideal for introducing preliminary introductions, so that you can follow and communicate truly later.

Instead of trying to be “interesting” in communication events or functional exhibitions, simply “interested”. When you change your network mentality, it will be more effective.

Try these techniques:

• Securing a list of attendees or companies’ names before the event. Do some research and list your network goals.
• You reach early, and a counterpart on the signs of the other present, and start meeting with others while calm. Once dinner or speaker start, the communication time has ended.
• Make the “Go-To” beginners ready, such as “(name), I was looking to meet you tonight. Can I ask you one question? Keep suggesting some of your ideas.
• Do you have some beginners in your back pocket, such as “What brought you here tonight?” Or “I love to know more about your background.”
• Bring a pen and paper with you to write who you met, and their contact information (if you don’t get a work card) and what you have discussed.
• Follow with anyone you contacted with LinkedIn (with a personal observation in the contact request) and sent an email. This is where the real networks begin.

6. Be unofficial, technical or unprepared

Yes, networks are supposed to be a two -way street. But as a coach to communicate, I train people on the undeclared truth about communication. Within any specific scenario (for example, job seekers, sales, marketing, business development), one person has the role of “Networker” and the other is “Networke”.

Although roles can be reflected, Networker is the person who needs support or visions of the other person. Networker has procedures, follow -up, gratitude and follow -up. More importantly, network networks need to focus on making the first wonderful impression and being very professional. When you are in doubt, make a mistake on the official side.

Chronic Blooper is that networks are very informal, very naive or very unprecedented.

Isn’t it? Did you do (by mistake) which of these?

• He said “hey” or “hello” for “hello” or “dear …”
• Happy faces included, brutal use of exclamation points or others
• Professional emails instead of sending them
• He made a lot of grammatical errors
• Susie email messages were sent in front of “Suzy Anderson” with a phone number and URL LinkedIn in the automatic signature
• Keep the LinkedIn profile is incomplete or scattered without a picture or a picture with a puppy
• It is glued to your phone instead of shaking hands with the hands, or contacting the eye, or God forbid, and writing things on paper to show that you are listening
• I forgot to bring work cards for exchange (see networks No. 3)

7. Being stores

Networks contain some highly logical, simple and uncomplicated etiquette rules. The only habit that has done regularly and frequently is “getting what you need and then disappears.” But this is not communication. It is simply take. Yes, don’t be available.

People want to help because they get out of the success or results of another person. However, my estimation is that only one out of every 100 retina do anything that goes beyond a thankful note (if that). If you want to avoid “Taker” poster, do the following:

• Take care of accurate notes for each conversation networks in a spreadsheet, including names, dates and communication information, where I met, etc.
• After someone directly helps you in any way, send them a thanks. And put a reminder in your calendar to send an email to them, thank you after one month.
• Often times, someone will refer you to someone else. Let’s say that John recommends you to talk to Liz. After you talk to Liz, I thank her and send a wonderful note to John, and thanked him and updated with your progress.
• Once a milestone is achieved, I thank everyone in the food chain. Advertise your progress and thank everyone as if they made the offer themselves. Ensure that the level of gratitude is suitable for Networke’s help. Think about coffee gift cards or notes written in hand or more based on a person’s generosity.

As you can see, the opposite of being arduous: (1) to follow up regularly with your progress, (2) to prove his gratitude. Ask yourself, “Who can I thank today?”

This article (Part 2 of 3) appeared originally here In forbes.com.

“Networks are not normal for me.”

“Networks are false.”

“I’m introvert, so I can’t communicate.”

“It is not part of my culture.”

People, networks simply build bilateral relations to help each other achieve personal or professional goals or to find life satisfaction. Just ask Helen Keeler: “Only we can do very little. We can together do a lot.” Or Brin Brown, who said, “The courage begins with appearing and leaving ourselves see.”

Previously, it was revealed Four of the top 10 types of network networks to avoid. In short, they were:

1. Lunch suggestion.
2. Excessive apology.
3. Lack of business cards.
4. Save the right to.

I have more to share it.

5. Driving someone’s time

Have you ever went to an event and wanted to meet a few of the main people? I waited with patience shook hands with one executive official; However, the other present took control of their time.

Don’t be that Networker that works time. Network events are not the right place to hold deep conversations. It is ideal for introducing preliminary introductions, so that you can follow and communicate truly later.

Instead of trying to be “interesting” in communication events or functional exhibitions, simply “interested”. When you change your network mentality, it will be more effective.

Try these techniques:

• Securing a list of attendees or companies’ names before the event. Do some research and list your network goals.
• You reach early, and a counterpart on the signs of the other present, and start meeting with others while calm. Once dinner or speaker start, the communication time has ended.
• Make the “Go-To” beginners ready, such as “(name), I was looking to meet you tonight. Can I ask you one question? Keep suggesting some of your ideas.
• Do you have some beginners in your back pocket, such as “What brought you here tonight?” Or “I love to know more about your background.”
• Bring a pen and paper with you to write who you met, and their contact information (if you don’t get a work card) and what you have discussed.
• Follow with anyone you contacted with LinkedIn (with a personal observation in the contact request) and sent an email. This is where the real networks begin.

6. Be unofficial, technical or unprepared

Yes, networks are supposed to be a two -way street. But as a coach to communicate, I train people on the undeclared truth about communication. Within any specific scenario (for example, job seekers, sales, marketing, business development), one person has the role of “Networker” and the other is “Networke”.

Although roles can be reflected, Networker is the person who needs support or visions of the other person. Networker has procedures, follow -up, gratitude and follow -up. More importantly, network networks need to focus on making the first wonderful impression and being very professional. When you are in doubt, make a mistake on the official side.

Chronic Blooper is that networks are very informal, very naive or very unprecedented.

Isn’t it? Did you do (by mistake) which of these?

• He said “hey” or “hello” for “hello” or “dear …”
• Happy faces included, brutal use of exclamation points or others
• Professional emails instead of sending them
• He made a lot of grammatical errors
• Susie email messages were sent in front of “Suzy Anderson” with a phone number and URL LinkedIn in the automatic signature
• Keep the LinkedIn profile is incomplete or scattered without a picture or a picture with a puppy
• It is glued to your phone instead of shaking hands with the hands, or contacting the eye, or God forbid, and writing things on paper to show that you are listening
• I forgot to bring work cards for exchange (see networks No. 3)

7. Being stores

Networks contain some highly logical, simple and uncomplicated etiquette rules. The only habit that has done regularly and frequently is “getting what you need and then disappears.” But this is not communication. It is simply take. Yes, don’t be available.

People want to help because they get out of the success or results of another person. However, my estimation is that only one out of every 100 retina do anything that goes beyond a thankful note (if that). If you want to avoid “Taker” poster, do the following:

• Take care of accurate notes for each conversation networks in a spreadsheet, including names, dates and communication information, where I met, etc.
• After someone directly helps you in any way, send them a thanks. And put a reminder in your calendar to send an email to them, thank you after one month.
• Often times, someone will refer you to someone else. Let’s say that John recommends you to talk to Liz. After you talk to Liz, I thank her and send a wonderful note to John, and thanked him and updated with your progress.
• Once a milestone is achieved, I thank everyone in the food chain. Advertise your progress and thank everyone as if they made the offer themselves. Ensure that the level of gratitude is suitable for Networke’s help. Think about coffee gift cards or notes written in hand or more based on a person’s generosity.

As you can see, the opposite of being arduous: (1) to follow up regularly with your progress, (2) to prove his gratitude. Ask yourself, “Who can I thank today?”

This article (Part 2 of 3) appeared originally here In forbes.com.