As human beings, one of the most common tendencies that we share is usually compared to ourselves, our situation, our circumstances and our lives for those around us. We look forward to seeing whether we were doing better or worse than someone else. Are we healthier, faster, or more intelligent than our peers? Do we love, talk and make better decisions than someone else in our position?

The comparison is normal and it can be a good thing when it motivates us to work more seriously, pay adversity or be inspired by the story of another person. When it becomes dispersed or destroyed, it is no longer healthy.

according to Psychology today“In a large part of it, how to interact on the comparisons on those who compare ourselves with it: when we just want to feel an improvement towards ourselves, we tend to participate in comparisons with people worse off than we are, although this can become an unhealthy habit. When we want to improve, we may compare ourselves to almost similar people with us, but we want to get a path or another.” When the comparison is used as an incentive, or a form of information from which we grow and improve ourselves, it has a precious purpose.

Social media is blaming the comparison fire. On the Internet, everyone appears to have a better car, smoother skin, a rewarding profession and happier family than we do. However, nothing can be further from the truth. Today’s psychology report highlights how “the magic of celebrity culture and the spread of covered social media carefully only increases the influence by exposing people to an endless current of pictures, homes, jobs, skills and endless families.”

Comparison of your military transition

During the chapters of the transitional aid program (TAP), or when you discussed your exit from the army with those around you, did you notice mentally from what was prepared for success, which may be on the way to conflict and where it is classified? Again, it is normal to do this, but it can also become dispersed and harmful to drawing your way.

The transition from military to the civil profession is practical and can last for a short or long period. There are no two people who leave military service that will have the same experience, opportunities or challenges to be faced. One person’s journey is not the next person’s journey. However, the tendency to compare yourself to how you serve others – for example, do they adapt to life outside the army better than you? Does they seem more stable and confident? Do you miss something? – It can make the transition be overwhelming.

Resist the desire to measure your progress through the quality (or not good) by that. Just because you have a function lining up before separation, it does not mean that you are “seizing” and a person without a job in danger – and vice versa.

Remind yourself

• Your way and purpose for you alone. Nobody has the same background, experience, passion, courage and future as you do. Let them do something; You are doing for you. Of course, you can help them, but resist the desire to compare.
• Watch others to find out what you can learn from them. Instead of evaluating and arranging yourself against your peers, take signals about what you can improve, develop and raise to make your move successful. You see another person fighting, ask yourself whether you may go to this same path and what you may do to treat the situation. Learning is growth.
• Share your experiences and learn with others. Comparing yourself with others can be a difficult habit of breaking it. While you learn to do this, his teacher, or help those around you learn to do the same. This will also enhance your commitment to focus on your transition path.

Comparing ourselves with others is not, by nature, unhealthy or unpleasant. When you distract you from following your dreams and goals with confidence, it is time to search the mirror more than everyone around you.

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